The Special Lady in Your Life

[Nympheas]

Sooo...

here's my update and ramble. Stressed, stomach in knots and such.
There was supposed to be a "family discussion" back in August but no go yet and ....of course.

There were just a couple of things that came up over the years but things that were very important to me, times where I needed to have someone in my corner and found that I was in a room full of people but somehow by myself. The appeal of a committed relationship has always been having someone that is there for me. Take that from me and I'm sitting there thinking... wth
The major concern has been someone on the in-law side of the family who I feel VERY uncomfortable having around my kids. Without going into details, take my word that I have very good reason for feeling this way. But.... I'm dealing with in-laws who want to play the "family-secret" game. Not with my damn kids, and no you cannot serve them up on a silver platter to your perverted family member because you want to stay on their good side and smile in their face, hoping they'll come back to you...

Now..... if a mate can't even speak up knowing that you feel strongly about keeping your kids out of ANY situation that involves this other person, wth...

I have a hard time even looking at my MIL knowing that she can't grasp why I don't feel comfortable about having her ex around my kids, because the way I see it, her judgement is warped. But wait... part of it is, she doesn't realize that I've known from day one! So she has been behind the scenes creating social situations and having dude invited over and we just happen to be there. Even had the nerve to call me and question me about why the boys rarely come over for a visit by themselves. She asks, what do I think she's going to do, hurt them? No... but her judgement can get them hurt. If she never reported him when it came to her own child why would she report him if anything happens with mine? So no, the grandkids will continue to be waved at from a distance for him and supervised visits for her because I cannot trust her judgement.

Unfortunately, I can't even get backed up on that one. But I'll be damned before I give and Hope nothing happens if she allows him to be around them.

I'm about to involve the other grandparents (ha!) Thinking that will take away the it's our little secret nonsense and stop the game playing.

[squirt]

I think that's only fair lol you should be able to speak up to your mate about anything anytime but especially about things that involve the children and their well being, it's not gonna go away, it's gonna have to be addressed sooner or later, my thoughts and prayers are with you ... *big hugs*

[Nympheas]

*Hugs*