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    Married or not you should read this..


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    ďWhen I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, Iíve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

    Suddenly I didnít know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didnít seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

    I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didnít talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didnít love her anymore. I just pitied her!

    With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

    The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didnít have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

    In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didnít want anything from me, but needed a monthís notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a monthís time and she didnít want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

    This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the monthís duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

    I told Jane about my wifeís divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

    My wife and I hadnít had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; donít tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

    On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadnít looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

    On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didnít tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

    She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

    Suddenly it hit meÖ she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

    Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, itís time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

    But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadnít noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to officeÖ. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mindÖI walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

    She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I wonít divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didnít value the details of our lives, not because we didnít love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, Iíll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

    That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.ó At least, in the eyes of our sonó- Iím a loving husbandÖ.

    The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

    So find time to be your spouseís friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
    If you donít share this, nothing will happen to you.
    If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of lifeís failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up
    I tried, Lord knows I tried! It was like she married me because she hated me! I've been single for the last 19 years now and I don't know if I will ever be or can be anything other than single now.

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    WOW that a powerful statement "DD"....'It was like she married me because she hated me!'

    I'm sure you know what is best but also you never know what may be waiting you just around the corner.

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    owah thanks everyone I finally got a page TWO!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by queen isabella View Post
    OMG Stevent222 that is awful hon.
    No not really Q.I. I choose to think just what the lord dealt me is all.
    Oh BTW not really wanting a number four but am open to date and fool around Then see what happens.

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    Quote Originally Posted by stevent222 View Post
    Didn't get the chance to say I love you one last time to my first wife, her and our 16 month old baby girl were murdered by a drunk driver while I was at work.

    Second wife, her and I divorced and I said "Good fucking riddin's" later I found out she stole from me too.

    Third wife I didn't get a chance to say goodbye and I love you either, she died in her sleep from a over dose of prescription drugs again while I was at work.

    Although really good story Q.I.
    I remember you telling me about the first story, but didn't know about the others hun...I am soooo very sorry....

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    Quote Originally Posted by pistol packin' mama View Post
    I remember you telling me about the first story, but didn't know about the others hun...I am soooo very sorry....
    Please don't be Honey it's just what life deals you and then live with it and go on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by queen isabella View Post
    owah thanks everyone I finally got a page TWO!!
    :Looks to me like more than two pages.


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    Quote Originally Posted by stevent222 View Post
    No not really Q.I. I choose to think just what the lord dealt me is all.
    Oh BTW not really wanting a number four but am open to date and fool around Then see what happens.
    Very good then!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ddkperry View Post
    :Looks to me like more than two pages.


    Our number setting must be different

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    Sometimes love pops up when you least expect it tae.
    If you have been out of love for a long time then it can be strange at first,you always think of the past relationships whether good or bad,forget them cos there is no time like the present.

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    Quote Originally Posted by TonyHendrix View Post
    My problem is my wife never listens tae me at all.
    She snores really loudly and last winter the snow was coming down very heavily.
    It was 3 a.m. in the morn and i looked out the window and snuggled back intae bed,the wife shuffled around for a wee bit and i said 'Cathy,it's snowing again.'
    She shouted 'I'm not bloody snoring again,i'm awake.'
    Women !!!
    my partner does that sometimes when he is snoring! I dont snore! well, ive never heard myself anyway! LOL

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    wow is all I have to say about this thread!

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    Is that a good WOW or bad WOW?

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    Quote Originally Posted by stevent222 View Post
    Didn't get the chance to say I love you one last time to my first wife, her and our 16 month old baby girl were murdered by a drunk driver while I was at work.

    Second wife, her and I divorced and I said "Good fucking riddin's" later I found out she stole from me too.

    Third wife I didn't get a chance to say goodbye and I love you either, she died in her sleep from a over dose of prescription drugs again while I was at work.

    Although really good story Q.I.
    Cant like the post

    that is awful and very sad..Im so sorry♥♥

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    Thank you for sharing this story it brought a tear to my eye because of how noble the woman in the story could be. A person I know I am not and could only aspire to be that selfless. At first the story reminded me of the movie Serious Moonlight and seemed like she was pulling a stunt to make her husband realize what he would be losing by divorcing her. Which I can totally agree with and think that those type of tactics work. A couple gets married and commits to each other for a reason and thats love but so many things come into a marraige that can make tear the 2 apart and then other new people come into that person life a person can get confused and think the new person is better than the old. But if a couple takes the time and effort or are thrown into a situation that the true love and caring they once had for that person isn't gone its just not as new. The grass isn't always greener and the starting over is not always going to make you happy like you think it is bc its a new person.

    This story hit me very close bc i know a couple that is about to divorce and I really wish she would take more time to think of the damage she can never repair.

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    Thank you for your comment

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