This letter was written to 'Sister-2-Sister' magazine by a white woman who asked Asian men to respond. One Indian wrote back...
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Indian male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Indian male-good-looking,
educated and loving. I just don't understand a lot of Asian female's attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because
the pickings amongst Asian women were slim to none. As he said the were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy,
too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly Approached by Indian men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If
Indian women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty
looks I get and snide remarks when we're out in public. I would like to hear from some Indian men about why we are so appealing and coveted by
Bryant Gumbel left his wife of 26 years for one of us. Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones,
James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius , Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Wesley Snipes... I could
go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly.
Don't be mad with us, White women, because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us And we may lead you to treat
your men better.
If I'm wrong, Indian men, Let me know.
Disgusted White Girl,
Somewhere in VA
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old Indian man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta , Georgia, with a
Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I Consider
myself to be among the ranks of successful Indian men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why Indian men date white women. Back in the day,
one of the biggest reasons why Indian men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The Indian girls in my neighborhood were
raised in strict homes. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our mpatience to wait, brothers
would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of Indian men, because of insecurities,
fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our Asian women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than
us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many Indian men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous Indian men and they continuously
comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women.
I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful Indian men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad
Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds , Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris
Rock all married strong black/Indian women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spotlight, who openly or secretly
desire Indian women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want A Disgusted White Girl to be misinformed, Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember,
when Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling dynasties and armies of men in Egypt , you were over in the caves of Europe eating
raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.
Read your history! It was the Indian woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the Indian woman that taught you how to raise
your children. It was Indian women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the Indian woman that had to endure watching
their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail.
Asian women were born with two strikes against them: being dark and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of
the Asian women's strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could never date anyone except my Asian Queen. It is not just the outer
beauty that captivates and draws me to them.
It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about Indian
women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they
believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously
go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to
inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous?
I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have What the Asian woman has...
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a
Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles.
I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Indian Royalty