RP Relationship Advice

angelzkizz

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Hi,


I met this guy through a RP forum site which both he and I joined just around the same time. Our characters happen to be madly in love and married, so with time we developed feelings for one another out of character and are currently together now. We've never met in person, and he's told me he doesn't want to "cross the line" (as in show me a picture or call me) because he's scared of disappointing me, and he doesn't know when he'd ever be ready to if ever. He says that's the only reason and yet he additionally says he has doubts our relationship would ever make it in real life because we live in different countries.

I have tried telling him that I have a bit more control over it because I can find a means for us to be together one day, it would just mean patience and time. He constantly showers me with sweet words, tells me how he feels about me constantly and has accepted to keep the idea of something possibly happening in real life between us. Everything feels so surreal and I want to know if this is practical, if people have fallen for someone online without having seen or talked to one another (beside chat) and truly made it work? Or should I push those romantic wishes to one side and move on? I can't stop thinking about him and my friend swears I'm in some kind of "honeymoon phase".

We've only been together for about 6 months, and I don't want to push him to do anything he isn't ready for but when should I get the hint that things won't go anywhere? Any advice is appreciated.
 

squirt

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#2
my son met his wife online, they've been married 8 years
there are several real life couples I know that met right here on this forum
and I know couples that have known each other all their lives and couldn't make a marriage work
my advice is to enjoy each other's company and take one day at a time, that's all most of us can handle anyways! :flowerforyou:

it's very nice to meet you, welcome to the Roo! :bow:
 

Goodgrief

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#3
Hello! Welcome!

I read and re-read your post. Hon, I think you're on a one-way street.
6 months and no pictures or calls? For all you know, you could be dealing with a guy who is married, has 7 kids, weighs 400 lbs and has no job.
My crystal ball doesn't see a future...
 

stevent222

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Hope this gets to you even though a year later.
Yes as soon as he asks for money dump him. Don't offer it.
And to Ms. Squirt never thought this Roo as a dating site but hells!~bells!
Who out there is looking? ? ? ? ?
Am single and all you've got to do is look at my photo albums on here
to know what I look like, and please no complimenting me.
Cause am really tied of being the trophy boyfriend/husband all the time.
 
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[QUOTE="jenny10, post: 4034800]Here's relationship advice to follow Angel - lose weight having sex. It'll lift the weight off your shoulders, literally.[/QUOTE]

:huh: :huh:
:groan1: Thank you........but my shoulders are not exactly my problem zone!! :huh:
 
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kipper

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[QUOTE="angelzkizz, post: 3818045]Hi,


I met this guy through a RP forum site which both he and I joined just around the same time. Our characters happen to be madly in love and married, so with time we developed feelings for one another out of character and are currently together now. We've never met in person, and he's told me he doesn't want to "cross the line" (as in show me a picture or call me) because he's scared of disappointing me, and he doesn't know when he'd ever be ready to if ever. He says that's the only reason and yet he additionally says he has doubts our relationship would ever make it in real life because we live in different countries.

I have tried telling him that I have a bit more control over it because I can find a means for us to be together one day, it would just mean patience and time. He constantly showers me with sweet words, tells me how he feels about me constantly and has accepted to keep the idea of something possibly happening in real life between us. Everything feels so surreal and I want to know if this is practical, if people have fallen for someone online without having seen or talked to one another (beside chat) and truly made it work? Or should I push those romantic wishes to one side and move on? I can't stop thinking about him and my friend swears I'm in some kind of "honeymoon phase".

We've only been together for about 6 months, and I don't want to push him to do anything he isn't ready for but when should I get the hint that things won't go anywhere? Any advice is appreciated.[/QUOTE]

Ask LMP, she'll know....
 

kipper

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[QUOTE="TonyHendrix, post: 4095234]Methinx Angel and Jenny are one and the same person somehow.[/QUOTE]


Not unless they've moved right across America they ain't.
 

kipper

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[QUOTE="LilMissPurrfect, post: 4095259]What have I done this time? :huh:[/QUOTE]

:noidea: Ask Shawnia she'll know...:grin: