The "forehead kiss"

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I know there are different views on what a forehead kiss means...

https://thesunflowerdiaries.wordpress.com/2014/02/06/the-forehead-kiss-myth/

I know a guy who's always had me on this pedestal (his words, not mine)... I've been seen as a "good girl" (from high school days), but we spent some time together over the past year.

So when I was about to go to sleep a few months ago and he kissed me on the forehead and though it was both sweet and intimate, it felt a little like distance too.

Plus, since then he's been in caretaker mode. I asked about how he saw me the other day and he talked about missed opportunities when we were younger, doesn't want me to disappear now, but I've been right here all year.

This is why I thought about distance after that forehead kiss. It's like being held at arm's length right now...
 

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Forehead kiss is the same as a Glasgow kiss here, that being a headbutt ...lol
 
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[QUOTE="kipper, post: 4761902]Forehead kiss is the same as a Glasgow kiss here, that being a headbutt ...lol[/QUOTE]
Omg, lol.
Noooo
 

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are you sick? I ask because you said he was in "caretaker" mode
the only time hubby has ever kissed me on the forehead has been when I was sick
I think it's a way of letting a woman know that he cares about her without giving her the idea that he's got other ideas lol
 
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I don't know the guy and I don't know the bond/relationship the two of you have....so I don't know.....and I'm as good at giving advice as viagra is working for an eunuch....:huh:
But a forehead kiss, to me, is one of the most intimate kisses.
It shows love, affection, caring and respect.
Men might push their tongue down the throat of women when they hardly know their name lol.......but won't kiss their forehead....that they reserve for a woman they find special.

We women love to read between the line and sometimes "see' things that aren't there......so why don't talk about it with him and find out what he really means and want before more missed opportunities happen?
 
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are you sick? I ask because you said he was in "caretaker" mode
the only time hubby has ever kissed me on the forehead has been when I was sick
I think it's a way of letting a woman know that he cares about her without giving her the idea that he's got other ideas lol[/COLOR]

I had a brief scare, but caretaker mode is about this crazy past year I've had with family (my ex married my brother's ex and there are kids/cousins involved. smh) and I've been in the process of buying my first house. He's been scouting with me and going on walk-throughs =)
 
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[QUOTE="LilMissPurrfect, post: 4762566]:noidea:
I don't know the guy and I don't know the bond/relationship the two of you have....so I don't know.....and I'm as good at giving advice as viagra is working for an eunuch....:huh:
But a forehead kiss, to me, is one of the most intimate kisses.
It shows love, affection, caring and respect.
Men might push their tongue down the throat of women when they hardly know their name lol.......but won't kiss their forehead....that they reserve for a woman they find special.

We women love to read between the line and sometimes "see' things that aren't there......so why don't talk about it with him and find out what he really means and want before more missed opportunities happen?[/QUOTE]

We talked earlier this week and, trust me, I was direct in asking questions ;-) We have seemed close this past year, but nothing defined really. Have you read or seen "He's Just Not That Into You"? It reminds me of that. Because some will say... but do you need a label. But in reality, if someone wants you they'll make it known.

So... I'm not one to pressure. His divorce finalized last year after the previous year's separation and he was saying that he wasn't ready for anything serious. I get that.
But I noticed something recently about how something was worded so I asked if he was seeing someone. He told me he was.

I think I can see the sweetness and intimacy in a forehead kiss... but I think that it may have also been that holding at arm's length thing too...
 
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I am certainly no expert at relationships, but from what you have said I think you are both uncertain about where you want to take this.

Are you actually interested in taking this to a more committed level? It seems to me that both of you are still unsure about what you are looking for. If you ARE looking at becoming more involved with him I think you should actually say that to him and get his reaction. It may be that he is also not sure what he wants, and only by talking at length will you be able to judge whether there is a real chance of a deeper relationship. It might be that he wants to keep you as a good friend, but isn't really interested in more involvement. You can only establish that through lots of talking.

I think you are wondering whether the kind of relationship you want is possible - you can only know that by an enormous amount of talking, so that you are convinced that you understand his inner feelings.
 
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Clarification: No uncertainty or lack of saying what I wanted on my part.

He's Just Not That Into You is a great read though.
I have to say that actions speak louder than the words expressed in a year's worth of conversations here. Ce la vie.
I'm good. ;-)
 
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Atleast now you know where you stand.........and you can move on and not put or waste more time and effort into it.
Guess he missed another good oppurtunity......his mistake.
Indeed, C'est la vie.........and we have to keep moving on.


 

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I like to think I have several women friends. Sometimes a hug and a kiss seems appropriate, though I hope that I don't give an impression of wanting an intimate relationship. The important thing is to clear up any possible misunderstanding so the friendship can continue. Nothing is ever likely to be as you think in a particular moment - a relationship is demonstrated over a long period.
 
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Agree. My boyfriend gives me a forehead kiss (non-Glasgow kind) when I'm sleeping or feeling blue. I never look at it any other way.
 
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[QUOTE="likeaneagle, post: 4771105]Neither one of you wants to be the 1st to say good bye (its :noidea:written in a song)[/QUOTE]

I missed this, but wow. Something to think about. Thanks for responding!
 

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i am no love expert but i do know what love is...it is unconditional...the only time i ever kissed my wife on the forehead was when she was sleeping and i was going somewhere...i did not want to wake her...but i always left a little note on the fridge door handle and one by the coffee pot...both saying where i was what i was doing and that i loved her...even that did not keep us together..so you need to decide what is right for you...just a mans 2 cents worth
 
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[QUOTE="roadkill, post: 4849526]i am no love expert but i do know what love is...it is unconditional...the only time i ever kissed my wife on the forehead was when she was sleeping and i was going somewhere...i did not want to wake her...but i always left a little note on the fridge door handle and one by the coffee pot...both saying where i was what i was doing and that i loved her...even that did not keep us together..so you need to decide what is right for you...just a mans 2 cents worth[/QUOTE]


I LOVE the little note by the bed. I know it's not much but it always means a lot to me. probably more than my BF will ever know.
 

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It comes down to one simple answer.
He really liked you, but he was not in love with you. It is hard to accept. But love has to be a mutual feeling.