[QUOTE="Geoff_the_Beard, post: 4625554]Therapy is a good idea, but don't make the mistake of booking appointments just because the therapist wants your money. Make sure that what you both say is really helping, though that might not be easy to assess in the early stages. As others have said, the most important things at this stage are to define what YOU want for the future. A new relationship is clearly desirable, but only with someone who wants you to have the relationship on your terms. Although it is a truism that many women got into a relationship with a man thinking that they can could him into what they want, the reality is that men rarely change, except possibly for the worse. Take a long time building a new relationship, to make sure that the new man IS what you want, in ALL aspects. At the same time, be realistic. All the perfect men are already taken![/QUOTE]
You're absolutely right, Geoff.
Don't mistake what I typed. I am not looking to change a man or command a relationship but I understand what you are saying. When I was making notes of what I wanted in a man, it was certain personality traits that I find desirable, simple little things like a kind heart, intelligence, etc.
But like I said, you're right. It's what I truly want for myself for the future and right now, I truly just want to find some peace in my life. I want to heal and maybe later think about a new relationship or dating.
I will watch out with the therapy. I know full well that a therapist does not have the solution for your problems that you have to do the work yourself. Thank you so much for your advice. :luvins:
Have a blessed day.
You're absolutely right, Geoff.
Don't mistake what I typed. I am not looking to change a man or command a relationship but I understand what you are saying. When I was making notes of what I wanted in a man, it was certain personality traits that I find desirable, simple little things like a kind heart, intelligence, etc.
But like I said, you're right. It's what I truly want for myself for the future and right now, I truly just want to find some peace in my life. I want to heal and maybe later think about a new relationship or dating.
I will watch out with the therapy. I know full well that a therapist does not have the solution for your problems that you have to do the work yourself. Thank you so much for your advice. :luvins:
Have a blessed day.
